In Taylor Swift is Not Your Friend Dayna Evans is unimpressed with Taylor Swift’s feminism. At the heart of the problem with many a feminist critique of successful women is a fundamental misconception of success. These pieces assume success is zero-sum. Which is, of course, absurd. My blog subscribers don’t dwindle when Taylor Swift gets another Number … [Read more…]
A gaming study involving watching Halo 3 players interact with each other illustrates a larger societal trend regarding feminism and low-skill, low-education men. No matter their skill level, or how the game went — men tended to be pretty cordial to each other. Male players who were good at the game also tended to pay … [Read more…]
This weekend I attended my first BlogHer conference in beautiful Midtown Manhattan. Shout out to Cherylyn Harley LeBon for making it possible for me to be a part of things. Instead of taking notes, I live-tweeted my sessions so everyone could benefit from what I was learning. #imagiver Here are my tweets and retweets from … [Read more…]
The Difference Between a Writer and Someone Who Writes I’m reading Everybody Writes by Ann Handley. So far, it’s an excellent primer for people who are not writers but want or need to write. Everybody writes is a great title, because most people do write regularly, and could be better at it. However, the fact … [Read more…]
People tell me pretty regularly that they’re thinking about starting a blog. This is my advice: Don’t. There are a lot of good reasons to write regularly. It helps you organize your thoughts. It helps establish your expertise on a topic. It helps connect you to new people in your area of interest. There are … [Read more…]
We’ve got another awesome Sex and the State guest post! If you would like to submit a guest post, please fill out my contact form with an brief outline of what you want to write about. “Good luck! You really have your hands full with that one!” He said jovially, elbowing my husband lightly. He wasn’t talking … [Read more…]
Thinking about the mixed, and strong, reactions to my post about my divorce. Any time I’m surprised by people’s reactions to something I’ve written, I know I’ve failed as a writer. I tend to write about controversial topics, especially topics I haven’t made my mind up on. And the way I think about things tends … [Read more…]
For Ravishly’s latest conversation, on marriage: Modern Marriage Wedding season is here, and while we’re digging out those garden-party dresses, we’re also reflecting upon the ancient institution of marriage and its place in modern society. Though pundits across the Internet endlessly speculate that marriage is falling out of fashion, it’s a tradition that still holds … [Read more…]
I believe trans women are women. And the sun is hot. It offends me that we’re having this conversation. “Trans-exclusionary radical feminism” is, by definition, bigoted against trans women. That doesn’t mean bigots don’t sometimes have a point. It was frustrating to watch both sides of the divide on the question of whether trans women … [Read more…]
So you’re moving to Washington, D.C. from the hinterlands. Congratulations! I’m writing this guide for you, young yokel. This is the guide I wish I’d had three years ago when I moved to this wretched hive of scum and villany. This is the thing I’m going to link to every time someone posts on Facebook: … [Read more…]