A Follow-up to the Divorce Post


Thinking about the mixed, and strong, reactions to my post about my divorce. Any time I’m surprised by people’s reactions to something I’ve written, I know I’ve failed as a writer. I tend to write about controversial topics, especially topics I haven’t made my mind up on. And the way I think about things tends … [Read more…]

Getting Divorced Saved My Marriage


For Ravishly’s latest conversation, on marriage: Modern Marriage Wedding season is here, and while we’re digging out those garden-party dresses, we’re also reflecting upon the ancient institution of marriage and its place in modern society. Though pundits across the Internet endlessly speculate that marriage is falling out of fashion, it’s a tradition that still holds … [Read more…]

Sex and Rolling Stone: Orange is the New Prison Reform


It’s sad evidence of collective latent racism that no one cares about prison until a conventionally attractive, intelligent, well-educated, middle-class, urban white woman goes there. Hence, Orange is the New Black, a funny and moving hit original series based on a bestselling memoir. How is it that black and Latina women are relegated to supporting … [Read more…]

Autonomy Versus Life: Suicide, Depression, Lifesaving Interventions, and Free Will

Autonomy, to me, is sacred. I value it more than I value other things, competing things. The direct opposite of autonomy is something like coercion or slavery. But to the side of that exists infringements on autonomy we’ll call “care,” including suicide prevention and breathing machines. An illustrative, if stark, example of autonomy violating care … [Read more…]

Polyamory Doesn’t Equal Cheating


We’ve got another awesome Sex and the State guest post! If you would like to submit a guest post, please fill out my contact form with an brief outline of what you want to write about. A recent article from The Guardian delved into a common issue associated with polygamy and polyamorous relationships—cheating. Guardian contributor Emer O’Toole … [Read more…]