“Because, at the heart of it, identity contradiction is what this is about. Society is currently set up so that female identities (not just respectable female identities— but all female identities) are incompatible with female sexuality. Even women who are ‘whorish’ are whorish to please men. There isn’t even an archetype for a woman who is openly sexual in her own right. And this sucks. Oh my god you guys, this sucks so hard. There is so much creativity, so much potential, so much opportunity for pleasure, or deep connection, or whatever floats your boat, wasted because we didn’t have paternity tests a thousand years ago.”
From The Secret Lives of Women: What I learned about women’s erotic fantasies while building my porn site. A+ content marketing.
“Much of our ‘moral reasoning’ doesn’t involve conscious reasoning at all. It is driven by moral emotions such as anger and disgust, or sympathy and benevolence. And it is expressed through habitual responses such as headshaking or handshaking. We can also be called to account for our responses. Often, we can even give a rational explanation of these responses after the fact. Once we have done so, however, that explanation may be subject to dispute. For example, we may be told that we were wrong to feel disgusted or angry when we saw two men holding hands on the street. We can imagine various responses depending on the context. “There’s nothing wrong with being gay!” “In the Middle East, holding hands is just an expression of male friendship.” And so on. The point is that once an ethical response has been made explicit, it is subject to discussion and debate. And discussion and debate might lead us to monitor our habitual responses. Eventually, it might even bring about a change in our emotional responses. Seeing two men holding hands might bring a smile to our faces, instead of a grimace. Indeed, that has been one of the greatest ethical transformations in contemporary Western societies in recent decades.”
“This is how ethical transformation often happens, namely, through conceptual redescription. Keane gives the example of ‘consciousness raising’ in the feminist movement of the 1960s and 1970s. Women learned to redescribe their life experiences with new concepts such as ‘patriarchy’ and ‘sexual harassment.’ And this changed their emotional responses to these experiences—from melancholy to anger. Consciousness raising led to policy demands such as equal pay for equal work, but it also led to interactional demands, e.g., for nonsexist language. And inevitably so, says Keane, because ethics is not just a matter of impersonal rules; it is also entwined with personal interactions. Ethics is second-personal as well as third-personal.”
From Where Do Morals Come From via Will Wilkinson.
This is the danger of letting reactionaries like @Nero or “factual feminists” like @CHSommers tell us that “patriarchy” isn’t “real.”
A thing like patriarchy is not and never was real like a fist is real. It’s real like the Enlightenment is real. And the purpose of denying it is to rob us of the anger we’ve earned by doing the hard work of becoming woke.
If I had a column entitled “Taking stupid things seriously,” I’d write about Deadpool and the mainstreaming of extreme sexual perversion.
Don’t like farm subsidies? Here’s another reason to call bullshit.
“The family farm embodied this heterosexual ideal at a moment when pervasive white fears about a declining ‘American’ population —that is, concerns that native-born whites were being “out-bred” by Southern and Eastern European immigrants and African Americans—were on the rise. These concerns and a desire to bolster white heterosexual family life motivated the government subsidy of family farms through New Deal-era modernization programs for (white) owner-operated ‘family farms.'”