We’ve got another awesome Sex and the State guest post! If you would like to submit a guest post, please fill out my contact form with an brief outline of what you want to write about. “Good luck! You really have your hands full with that one!” He said jovially, elbowing my husband lightly. He wasn’t talking … [Read more…]
Thinking about the mixed, and strong, reactions to my post about my divorce. Any time I’m surprised by people’s reactions to something I’ve written, I know I’ve failed as a writer. I tend to write about controversial topics, especially topics I haven’t made my mind up on. And the way I think about things tends … [Read more…]
For Ravishly’s latest conversation, on marriage: Modern Marriage Wedding season is here, and while we’re digging out those garden-party dresses, we’re also reflecting upon the ancient institution of marriage and its place in modern society. Though pundits across the Internet endlessly speculate that marriage is falling out of fashion, it’s a tradition that still holds … [Read more…]
I believe trans women are women. And the sun is hot. It offends me that we’re having this conversation. “Trans-exclusionary radical feminism” is, by definition, bigoted against trans women. That doesn’t mean bigots don’t sometimes have a point. It was frustrating to watch both sides of the divide on the question of whether trans women … [Read more…]
So you’re moving to Washington, D.C. from the hinterlands. Congratulations! I’m writing this guide for you, young yokel. This is the guide I wish I’d had three years ago when I moved to this wretched hive of scum and villany. This is the thing I’m going to link to every time someone posts on Facebook: … [Read more…]
It’s sad evidence of collective latent racism that no one cares about prison until a conventionally attractive, intelligent, well-educated, middle-class, urban white woman goes there. Hence, Orange is the New Black, a funny and moving hit original series based on a bestselling memoir. How is it that black and Latina women are relegated to supporting … [Read more…]
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Autonomy, to me, is sacred. I value it more than I value other things, competing things. The direct opposite of autonomy is something like coercion or slavery. But to the side of that exists infringements on autonomy we’ll call “care,” including suicide prevention and breathing machines. An illustrative, if stark, example of autonomy violating care … [Read more…]
For new readers, let me warn you that I’m an asshole. However, I’m a true believer that all publicity is good publicity, so trust me when I say that I’m writing this out of love. Learn Liberty is definitely the best thing IHS has going right now. While I consider most of the team close, … [Read more…]
Text from a girlfriend: I’m “dating” this guy. I don’t really date but he straight-up asked me if I wanted to be his monogamous girlfriend. I was like uhhh I guess. He’s hot. And we have lots of mutual interests. We’ve been dating for about six weeks. He won’t have sex with on my period, … [Read more…]